swearing

I was reading the readers digest at work and found a question and answer column that I really liked. It is called ASK LASKAS, perhaps you've read it. There was one specific question that caught my eye.

Q: "My husband swears in front of our boys. I don't think this sets a good example, but he says they'll hear it on the playground anyhow. Any strategies for getting him to stop?" Prudish Mom

A: "Dear Prudie, Your husband needs a timeout. Sit him down and explain: Yes, your boys will hear profanity, sexual language and violent threats on the playground. That's why parents must set standards, so kids will grow up to be good citizens rather than bathroom-humor barbarians. Set the rule for all of them: no cursing. Tell them you are doing it for the future of the civilized world!"

Scott and I decided a long time ago that we are not going to use foul language in our home. We also do not allow our kids to watch movies or shows that have foul language or sexual connotations. However on occasion we have gotten disagreements from others on our decision. We have heard things like "well you can't shelter them forever they are going to hear those things anyway." This is true, but as a parent we do need to set the standard. When Malayna comes home and says she heard something at school or anywhere else, we try to explain to her that, using those kind of words is not the way we talk in our family or in our home. We have not been perfect with this, but we have tried very hard. I doubt that it will keep our children from ever saying any bad words, but we have at least taught them that it is not the right thing to do.

Our pastor has also done a few sermons on this subject. I like the Bible verse he uses. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.Ephesians 4:29